What to do with a spouce like this?

Your husband (or whatever he is) is insecure, controlling, and abusive and if you're really thinking about your baby you would know that it is better for a child to grow up in a single parent family than an abusive one. Leave him, take your baby where ever you want, go for full custody, and get child support services involved! You have family to help you so walk away now while you have the upper hand.